- Manners. I hated learning them and I was the only girl north of Baltimore who knew how to curtsy. I was banished from many meals, red with shame for “smacking my lips” or slipping an elbow onto the table. It was often absurd and out of touch, but included in that package was learning to respect those folks older and usually smarter, and learning to be gracious with the ungracious. Poise. It’s an old fashioned ideology.
- How to make the best southern biscuit in the world. Sorry, I’d have to kill you if I told you, and besides it’s acquired, not taught. Just stay close by, I’ll give you some warm out of the oven, soft as Gabriel’s pillow.
- Every time you say “I can’t,” substitute it with “I don’t want to.” Dang, she was right again. Every time.
- The only time it’s okay to lie is when someone gets a bad hairdo.
- The only time it’s okay to be rude is when someone talks too much. “Just walk away. They won’t even notice.”
- Swearing is a lazy use of language. There are more creative ways to express yourself.
- Life is short – eat french fries and drink milkshakes.
- There is no sorrow like losing a child – you will not get over it, and that’s okay.
- People can be jackasses (her word), but refer back to #1.
- “Motherhood is self-defeating; the only way you succeed is to let go.”
My mom is in heaven now, finally reunited with a son and a grandson. I don’t think she would’ve called herself a great mother but let’s be real – we are winging it, especially when they’re teens. Love really does cover a multitude of sins, because Love is gracious, just like my mom taught me. Only God’s love is perfect, but a mom’s comes pretty close. Happy Mother’s Day to all of you beautiful moms out there!

My grandson Eli presenting a rose to his mom.
Oh, Robin! This was so good and perfectly timed for me to read today.
“Motherhood is self-defeating…” Between my twins graduating high school two years ago and my son (the baby) graduating high school in a month my role is changing drastically.
Yes, mama was right! But when we give to the Lord what was never really ours to begin with He multiplies and gives back more than we could dream of. I can say this two beautiful daughter-in-laws and five grandchildren later!❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful, Robin. And about #10, sigh, down here in DC saying goodbye to my Robin. He`s got a job and apartment and I just have to smile and let him go.
Well done bro! You released a beautiful young man. Go home and hold his mama extra tight and then go walk the dog. ☺️